Sunday, June 2, 2013

Dear Yimiton, should I encourage my sex maniac husband to have affairs?

I’ve been married 2 years with a 1 year old daughter. Life has been great aside from the fact that my husband is a sex maniac. He wants it like every minute of the day and practically cries for it when I’m indispensable to give it to him. I was 28 and inexperienced when we got married while he was 35. 

We dated for over a year without sex and for the life of me, I don’t even know how he managed through the one year because immediately after the first one awkward and painful sex week, it was all he wanted to do. I mean, we do it everywhere and every time. On an aircraft, in the car, over the phone, kitchen, in short, everywhere.

At first, I thought it was really great as I was living out all my sexual fantasies but when I got pregnant and he wouldn’t slow down, I knew I was in trouble. When I refuse, he’ll beg and tell me how much he loves me and always want to be one with me. Sometimes, he’ll say I should just turn my back while he inserts his manhood from behind. At other times, he’ll wake me up with sex at the middle of the night. I can’t remember the last time I went to work without first having sex, even when we’re running late. 

I remember once he travelled for only 2 days, when he returned, it was like he’d been starved for ages. He started stripping right at the door and had this big smile and a sense of anxiety on his face. He rushed me to the couch in the living room and satisfied himself even while the baby was crying in the room.  

The problem is, he’s so sweet when he’s not exhibiting his animalistic instincts, I can’t complain about him in any other way. He treats me like a princess, buys me expensive gifts, sends me flowers in the office, and organizes romantic dinners for us. Generally, he’s a great husband and father to our child. I can also vouch for him that he’s been totally faithful to me but I’m going crazy right now. He tires me out and makes me sore. 

I’ve tried to talk to him about it several times and he’ll listen to me and promise to try but at the end, it’s like he doesn’t have control over his sex drive. The next minute, he wants it. Even talking about it seems to give him a hard-on.  

I love my husband and I know he loves me but I’m going crazy. I’ve flirted with the idea of encouraging him to have extra marital affairs but I don’t think that will be good for us at the long run. 

Please, I will appreciate your advice, especially people who have had similar experiences or any other sex related issues in their relationships. How did you manage it? 

10 comments:

  1. Sit him down and talk to him about what u don't like about him.buy him books related to emotional control and stuff like that.asking him to go outside would be the greatest error u will ever commit.

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  2. my dear ,manage it o.dont even dare bring that up its like bringing hot red coal into ur bossom.sit him down explain ur pains to him and the hurt u feel.use other methods maybe a blow job or mouth job,use lots of lubricants too.

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  3. You should be glad that its you he wants though its tiring but lady give him what he wants... Calabar girl speaking....

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    1. Lol, I love my Calaba sisters. Seriously, how could you be considering that? That's the silliest thing I've ever heard. Inasmuch as it could be tiring, you must live up to it. Aren't you a Christian? You want to push your husband into another woman's hands and start crying when he stops coming home. Better see a therapist if you need to and learn to accommodate your husband.

      All the best.

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  4. TheChronicled Dont even think about cuz you will regret it big time!

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  5. my dear, find strenght some how, somewhere. You say he is not cheating on you with all this libido he has? are you not lucky?Please, find a way to stand up to the challenge. work on your psyche. pep up your game. decide to enjoy every moment of it> Please, don't show him the way out> You will regret it

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  6. if his libido is too high for u, then ur liido is too low for him, he is also challanged!!, pls work on ur libido to meet up with his, so that u two can smile forever

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  7. My dear sister don't even think about that......try to work on your libido.....you Marriage is just two years...gradually your husband will come down to your level when responsibility is getting more and more....he will be thinking more about how to take care of you and kids...school fees, feeding, other expenses , there will be a time that you will even called him to have sex...that he will tell you that he is tired...please try to endure for now....get yourself....lubricating gel ...to avoid sore..or pain.....i have pass thru this also, my marriage will 15 year by July, and i will be 44 by DEC..May be with you. stay bless. ITUNU

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    1. Thank you so much Madam. This is indeed the words of Wisdom.

      Thanks to every other person that has advised me. Thanks so much. I didn't want to involve family into my marital affairs and I'm grateful for the anonymity I can use on the internet.

      Thanks so much. I'll keep talking to my husband with love and work on myself to be more accommodating.

      God bless you and thanks again.

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  8. Your own is good. My own demands have been coming from my boyfriend. I'm always afraid that if I don't keep giving in, he may break up with me and not marry me. He has even told me that by himself.

    Sometimes, I feel so used when he's done.

    What is a girl to do? I wan marry.

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