I met Adesuwa at the NYSC camp in Nasarawa state and we hit it off immediately. We became inseparable before we passed out of camp. On the pass out day, we held each other for a long time and she was in tears.
Fortunately, our primary places of assignment were quite close, so we started seeing each other again.
When I noticed that the relationship was getting deeper and I didn't want to hurt her, I let her know that I already had a very serious girlfriend in Lagos whom I'd been dating since 300 level. She said it was fine as she also had a boyfriend in Portharcourt who was already working and she intends to get married to him immediately after service.
With that out of the way, we agreed to be friends but before you know it, one thing led to another and ours became friendship with benefits.
Just before we passed out finally, she told me she was pregnant but said I shouldn't bother because the baby is not mine but her real boyfriend's child. I easily believed her as she used to leave Nasarawa quite often to visit her boyfriend in Portharcourt.
We finally passed out and before she put to bed she had a traditional and court weddings with the other guy and moved in with him.
I really didn't keep in touch with her but sometimes check her updates on Facebook. The last time I checked, what I saw shocked me to my bone marrow. Looking right into my eyes was her 1 year old daughter, picture taken at her 1st year birthday. The child's resemblance to me is unmistakable. In short, she's a carbon copy of my youngest sister.
I don't want to break her home but the fact that my child could be growing up as another man's child is haunting me. I don't want anything from her, I just want to know if the child is mine and take responsibility like a man.
I'm yet to take any action but I intend to discuss this with my father and take the matter from there.
My problem now is how do I do this without hurting anyone?